When I first saw this quote by Rumi it made me think about how we perceive ourselves. We are so critical of our bodies, our abilities and our intellect. We might feel as though we can’t do something like someone else or why we are not as good as someone else especially if that someone else is someone you know.
I feel exhausted just playing this thought out in my head over and over like a stuck record! Sound familiar?? Yet many of us do this “self flagellation” every day!
What if I stopped and really listened to Rumi’s words,
“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you” – Rumi
Would I begin to love myself more and start the most fulfilling beautiful romance ever? This appeals to me because I am a hopeless romantic and in Oscar Wilde’s words I can! “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance” – Oscar Wilde
So this leads my busy chattering brain to a new thought pattern, what if I do stop and really hear my first love story? What will I hear?
I am always telling my children how precious and unique they are, how there is ONLY one of them ever. My son once asked me “if I did something really bad would you still love me?” and I said ” I would love you no matter what you did because I love you unconditionally. Unconditionally means that there are no conditions to my love and that I love all of you completely”
So the thought that occurs to me at this point is that I need to do the same for myself, love my uniqueness and love every part of me completely. And so…. begins my love story.
As a Color Therapist I am conscious of the colors I choose. So I choose to write this blog in pink and green because PINK is the color that is associated with learning to love, nurture and accept yourself unconditionally and GREEN is I do so from my heart. When I do sessions of Color Therapy this lesson becomes real and possible. As you choose your 5 colors in a session and regardless as to whether you choose pink or green this valuable lesson of how do I begin the process of loving myself comes up. I often add in affirmations to help my clients to accept this belief and assimilate it into themselves. I love doing what I do and every precious person that I meet is unique so I tailor each session around each person’s individual need.
Here is a wonderful easy affirmation to get you started. ” I love and accept myself just as I am”. I also believe that many of us do not know how to nurture ourselves without feeling guilty about it or we are simply not sure how to do that.When women come to me I give them easy doable ideas of “how to”. Here are some easy” how to” ideas that you can start to implement. Spend at least half an hour in your day or more doing something that nurtures you:
Sit in a park or garden and slowly savor your coffee or tea for a half hour.
Stand in front of the mirror and really look at yourself, this might feel very uncomfortable but as you do it more and more you start to see YOU. Then say the affirmation “I love and accept myself just as I am”
Join a group that uplifts you and helps you feel happy and energized
Go for a massage or spa treatment
Watch a movie that you want
Sign up for a class that you have always wanted to go but did not
You are precious and unique and there is only one of you. Today is the day you fall completely, madly and unconditionally in love with YOU!